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The Question of the Week is for open discussion of a current issue. A new question will be posted every Sunday. Keep in mind that every one is entitled to their own opinion. While it's fine to attack another's argument, it's not fine to attack another person.
PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL OF EACH OTHER!
PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL OF EACH OTHER!
6 comments:
Birth control is okayed by the LDS church and encouraged. So I'm all for it. I'm personally on the IUD and I love it! I did the ring, but it made me slightly hormonally crazy after about 10 months.
That's funny you say that about the ring because I was on it for a year and never had a side effect and one day it just started really bugging me.
As far as the question, I think the decision of when to have children is a very personal one between a couple. It's irresponsible to think that because you got married you HAVE to have kids right away. Not just because of finances but because everyone is different and you need to be ready to have kids. If you're ready right away that's fine, if you're not that's fine too.
On that note, we cannot be expected to only have sex if we are ok if that sex resulted in a baby. Sex isn't just about reproduction. In my marriage and I would assume many others it's also a way of being close to one another and letting your partner know how much you love them. Therefore some sort of birth control is necessary unless kids are what you want at that time.
My husband and I are LDS. We have used birth control and/or natural family planning between children. I want to have lots of children, but I would prefer to not have them too close together. So I use birth control until I feel ready and we feel that it's right to expand our family. I agree with the second commenter - I don't want every sexual encounter to result in a baby, so in between kids I'm all for using birth control.
My husband are are are active LDS, and are still young (late 20's). We always knew we only wanted 2 children, and now that we have 2, my husband has had a vascectomy. I realize we're young, but we know our family is complete and so why pay for birth control each month until I hit menopause? Anyways, that's where we're at!
I think birth control, family planning and things like that are DEEPLY personal, so I didn't take all the "vascectomy's are bad" stuff I read from the LDS church's stance to seriously (obviously), though I do love the church.
Just before getting married my fiancee (now my hubby) and my only arguement was that of "family planning." Our opinions were very different about this, so we decided to ask our bishop about it. He got out the big "Book Of Rules" for bishops as he called it and looked it up for us. The things that I remember him saying (it HAS been 14 years ago!) were that the husband needed to be in tune to his wife's feelings about having kids since she was the one who had to carry and then take care of them. And they frown on vasectomies if you have NEVER HAD CHILDREN. And that is just frowned upon, not forbidden. Just my experience with this subject, hope it helps!
The two main things I've heard from the church are: "It is between the husband, the wife, and the Lord." and "Don't put off having children for selfish reasons." I think as long as those two things are being done, it is okay to use birth control. The scriptures say that it is not requisite that a man runs faster than he has strength. God doesn't expect us to have a million kids, all 9 months apart. But we should pray about how many kids to have and WHEN to have them. I think as long as we are doing that, we can't be in the wrong.
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